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Sunday, May 12, 2019

Sunday Best: The difference between happiness and joy

Hint: Seek joy.

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Sunday, May 12, 2019

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The Difference Between Happiness and Joy

An Arizona State University student preparing for graduation last week. Deanna Dent/Arizona State University

By DAVID BROOKS

If you're on a quest for happiness (who isn't?), it might be prudent to instead consider seeking joy. "Happiness comes from accomplishments. Joy comes when your heart is in another."

It's O.K. to Not Choose Motherhood

K.L. Ricks

By NICOLE DENNIS-BENN

"I was never sold on motherhood until I started babysitting my nephews. Before then, I had deeply resented how the world perceives black women as maternal figures, the media often portraying us as mammies, in complete disregard of those who might not have a maternal bone in their bodies."

Trying to Guess a Food That Won't Make My Pregnant Wife Sick

Roman Muradov

By BRAD AUSTIN

"I'm just trying to stay with the 'foods that are hot and squishy' theme that you said was working for you. You hate all things hot and squishy now? O.K., recalibrating."

What the Evacuation of a Flaming Airplane Says About Human Behavior

The destroyed fuselage of the Aeroflot jetliner at Sheremetyevo airport outside Moscow after it crashed. City News Agency Moscow/Agence France-Presse — Getty Images

By ERIC NAGOURNEY

Several passengers grabbed their luggage before exiting Aeroflot Flight 1492, which made a fiery emergency landing last weekend. If you think you would have run out of there as quickly as possible, think again — fear can make humans do strange things.

I Traded the 12-Step Program for a Dog

Haleigh Mun

By TYLER WATAMANUK

When Alcoholics Anonymous isn't the right fit, palo santo isn't your vibe and vigorous exercise wears you out, a furry friend who infuses you with oxytocin could be the thing that keeps you sober.