8 things you should never say to your partner

Therapists weigh in.

View in browser|nytimes.com Continue reading the main story December 11, 2023 A New York Times reporter spoke to therapists about phrases they wished couples would stop saying during conflicts. Illustration by Nicolás Ortega; Photograph by Getty Images The result is a list of eight terms — and advice on what to say instead. → Sign up for the Well newsletter, for Times subscribers only. Essential news and guidance to live your healthiest life. Get it in your inbox Continue reading the main story ADVERTISEMENT Continue reading the main story Need help? Review our newsletter help page or contact us for assistance. You received this message because you signed up for updates from The New York Times. To stop receiving From The Times, unsubscribe. To opt out of other promotional emails from The Times, including those regarding The Athletic, manage your email settings. To opt out of updates and offers sent from The Athletic, submit a request. Subscribe to The TimesGet The New York Times app Connect with us on: Change Your EmailPrivacy PolicyContact UsCalifornia Notices The New York Times Company. 620 Eighth Avenue New York, NY 10018